Sit
down, pour a cup of tea, and have a conversation
with your Critic.
Your
Critic is that inner alarm that rings--or yells or
whines--every time you step out of its shifting
safety zone. It zaps your energy with twisted logic,
persistent arguments, inner sabotage,a option
overload, and dread of fear and disapproval.
Needless
to say, the Critic puts a damper on the flow of your
creativity.
Which
doesn't mean you get rid of the Critic. The Critic
is useful when it points out problems to
correct--later on in the germination of your ideas.
As your idea takes flight, though, you need to put
the Critic aside until you're ready to hear its
view.
As a
writer, teacher, and promoter of my materials, I've
learned few tricks that helped me balance the
Critic. Whenever I appear on TV, I first push the
Critic out of my body and tell it to stay at home
until later that night when I agree to ask for its
opinion. I am much more relaxed on TV while I don't
have to fight that inner voice. The Critic has given
me useful feedback when I'm ready to hear it--at the
end, for next time. Here are some ways to free
yourself of your Critic's hold--right now.
Change Your Mind
Focus on Your Body
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See
if the Critic "lives" in a certain part of your
body--maybe your shoulders. Do some yoga or
counter movements to loosen that hold
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Push
the Critic out of your body. Feel yourself
without that energy inside you.
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Tell
the Critic to leave the room, stay in the car,
go to the coffee shop. You'll check in with it
later.
Reduce Emotional Charge
Present Moment
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Be
grateful for the present moment.
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Notice your body in the present moment. Feel
your skin: the air, clothing, gravity and
sensations. (Thanks to Rick Carson of
Taming Your Gremlin [Collins 2003] for
that idea.)
Play
Change Your Habits
While
your Critic won't disappear, you can change your
relationship to it. Instead of being an inescapable
wall, you learn to see your Critic as boulders
(rocks? stones?) in a field. You can move around on
climb over them! Your true self finds its flow. ©
Creative Insomnia, Sondra Kornblatt 2003-2006